Happy last Monday of the month of April everyone! I am beyond excited this morning to be rolling out my first official Mom Sexy post for my new monthly meme. I have been totally overwhelmed by how well my whole revolution to bring Mom Sexy back has been received so far, and I just can’t wait to hear more empowering stories of moms making a comeback in the sexy department each and every month!
I’ve said before that Mom Sexy is not about how you look. Mom Sexy is an ATTITUDE. It’s about how you feel in your own skin, and that means being confident and loving and accepting yourself for WHO YOU ARE at this point in your life. Because as mothers, we don’t have to look like cover girls in order to get our hot vibe goin’ on. And that’s one of the things that’s so great about Mom Sexy. There are NO HEIGHT AND WEIGHT REQUIREMENTS and NO SAMPLE SIZES TO FIT INTO in order to be considered a role model for other women.
Because Mom Sexy is NOT A NUMBER.
For as long as I can remember, I have been a complete and total slave to my scale. Each and every morning as soon as I get out of bed, I take off every last stitch of clothing and head into the bathroom to see what magic number is going to show up on that stupid appliance. To be quite honest, I’ve been borderline OBSESSED with checking that number every single day. And if those digits happen to rise above a certain cut-off point that I’ve deemed “acceptable” for myself, then I pretty much feel like complete and total shit for the rest of the day. And that definitely doesn’t make me feel sexy.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve refused a piece of birthday cake at a party because I’m afraid that the scale won’t let me live it down the next morning. I can’t even begin to count the number of instances where I’ve ordered a grilled chicken salad for dinner instead of the penne pasta because I know that the salad is much more likely to generate a positive response from the dreaded scale. And I’ve even gone so far as to give up booze for a week or two just to watch the number go down a couple of pounds. But Mama just doesn’t function all that well without her night cap.
I have been on my Zumba kick for a little over a month now, and this is the absolute best that I’ve felt in a long time. I feel healthy. I feel invigorated. And of course it’s pretty obvious that I feel sexy as hell. And you know what? That scale hasn’t budged since I started shaking my ass. I’m stuck at the same weight that I was at before I started my classes…but my jeans suddenly fit better. And my muffin top is disappearing. And my tush is finally at the same latitude as my hips instead of being closer to my knees. And I’m starting to realize that in order to completely embrace my inner Mom Sexy, I need to let go of my dependence on that damn scale. So that is exactly what I’m going to do. Because I am NOT going to allow myself to be defined by a number.
I’ve prepared a little treat for all of my awesome Mom Sexy peeps out there. That’s right ladies…I finally vlogged. So here is my debut.
There you have it chicas!! I’ve officially broken up with my abusive boyfriend, the scale. And I don’t miss that bastard one bit.
With that being said, my question to you this month is:
What in your life is holding you back from feeling Mom Sexy? What is that one thing that you need to let go of in order to let your inner sexy emerge?
If you would like the chance to be my Mom Sexy Blogger of the Month for May, then all you need to do is to either leave a comment and answer the question above, or if you are really feelin’ the sexy vibe, you can grab my Mom Sexy button, and write your own post and answer the question there! The McLinky below will be up until this Friday…and I absolutely cannot wait to read your posts!
The new Mom Sexy lady for May will be announced sometime on Saturday, May 1st…so make sure to check back so you can congratulate her!!
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YES! Great post about scales! We bought a scale after I had the baby because I was curious as to what my weight was after I had the baby, and as I went along trying to lose weight. In that regard, I think it was helpful because it gave me a place to start.
However, now that I am actually feeling good and healthy and back to normal, I never use the scale. All that matters is that I feel awesome! My pants fit, I can look at myself in the mirror and think “yes, today is a good day!”
So many people are slaves to the numbers. I lived with a girl who would not stop checking her weight and it drove me nuts! I felt bad for her!!
So thanks for the post!!
She vlogs!!! Love it! Yes, that scale needs to go south if we want to feel good about ourselves!
Scales should only be used for weighing the amount of flour, sugar and butter you put in the chocolate cake.
yay! i loved your vlog! that summabitch needed to go a long time ago cuz youre HOT!!! thanks for brightening my morning!
i have no idea what mom sexy is. the phrase is counterintuitive (to me, atleast). i’ll be thinking all day!!
I tried to link up but I keep getting an error message. BUT I have added the button to my page….Okay mom (or mum) sexy…what does it mean to me..It means that when I was shaking it at last Saturdays zumba class, I felt sexy…even in my tshirt and gym pants.
It means when I go to the gym tommorrow to be assessed and given my programme, I know how good I will feel when I do weights, as I did before. It means that when I am on the treadmill, I know my clothes will feel just that little bit looser, I will feel fitter, stronger and mentally “with it”. I’ve done it before, and I’m doing it again…I also will have to stop this love/hate relationship with my scales, they are evil!!
I absolutely love your post..Mom is sexy!! The media needs to change the focus on being skinny to be health. I am trying to find a Zumba class in my area because of you and your tweets ..It sounds like sooo much fun..
Love the vlog!
My scale was kicked to the curb quite a while ago, but I still need to find the confidence to feel comfortable in my own skin. Finding a workout routine and sticking to it is something I really need to do.
Loive it..that video was absolutely hysterical!!!
You know what I dont even have a scale in the house, which I guess is a good thing! But every time I go to my parents that’s the first thing I do
Love the vlog, great job!!
Love the vlog. It was great “seeing” you.
As for Mom Sexy I think what is keeping me from feeling that way is my clothes. I feel like I don’t have the “right” clothes, but I know that it is all in my head. I don’t need to worry about my clothes. I just need to worry about how I feel on the inside. I am looking forward to one day finally feeling Mom Sexy. Hopefully that day will come sooner rather than later.
I was totally cracking up at your vlog! Love it! I’ll get a post up later this week.
Well check you out! I too am a slave to the scale. I don’t know if I’ll throw it off a balcony as you seemed to do – but I will definitely try not to visit him as often. I actually only weight myself once a week – so it could be worse!
I love the vlog. You are too cute!!
I’m not sure what holds me back…maybe the fact that my clothes no longer fit. LOL
That is really funny. Good for you!
I linked up. Shell referred me over here and suggested I join in. So glad to have found you.
LOL LOL… That was awesome!
I think Ive dated Taylor too… that bastard!
Love the Vlog! I linked up with my Mom Sexy – Shorts story, which I already sent you, but I’m taking my first zumba class today, so I’m sure I’ll have another post soon! Thanks for all your inspiration!
LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Amazing how your Mom Sexy Meme and my own thought transformation seem to be aligned! I am grabbin’ that button and runnin’ over to “my place” to write my own Mom Sexy post RIGHT NOW! I heart you, Mary Mommyologist! You are so fabulous! (And pretty gorgeous!) =)
lol… love the little hip action “that’s mom sexy” at the end…
Love the vlog. You totally got mom sexy under control.
In order to be Mom Sexy, I need to let go of my hangup over my muffin top. It grows a little smaller everyday with hard work, and I have returned to pre-pregnancy jeans, but I’m still not happy. There’s nothing quite like putting on a cute buttoned shirt and taking the babe to the park for some fun that should make a mom just radiate happy and sexy, but I get caught up in my head over the feeling of my muffin top straining the shirt when I move a certain way. Major bummer, and something I need to let go of, because both my daughter and my husband love me for me, and only want me happy.
On a side note, isn’t May 1 a Saturday, not Monday like you have in your post? My birthday is May 2, and I know that’s a Sunday this year.
you go girl! That was hot!!!
I too am in an abusive relationship with my scale, but here recently he has been good to me ever since i started Skinny Jeans blog.. me and some bloggy buddies are on a weight loss journey together and its working!
Oh WOW! I actually squealed when you threw that scale overboard! That’s classic AND priceless! I trained for a half marathon during the winter and ran it in March. During all that training, I’d be so tired in the mornings, that I’d actually forget to weigh myself because all I wanted was that first cup of coffee to get me awake. Well, one morning close to the race, I stepped on my scale (for the first time in about 4 months!) just out of curiosity, and found I had LOST FIVE FREAKIN’ POUNDS! Boy, talk about a total shocker, especially because I’d been eating like a pig those 4 months. I guess that’s when my “dependence” on my scale finally broke. I’ll grab a button and write a post later this week! Thanks for getting my week off with a squeal!
Mom sexy volgger! You go girl! I’ll post later this week but you’ve hit the nail on the head… mom sexy is about attitude and confidence! I’ve been working on weight loss since last July and have lost 39 pounds and The World’s Greatest Husband and I have had one little inside motivator…. skinny sex. We joke about it, smile about it and flirt about it, but it is MOM SEXY! and the attitude and confidence make it live hot!
Awesome Mary! I have a Taylor in my life too, and he is abusive and nasty – I need to toss him out!
Love the action in the vlog! I sadly hang out with my scale every morning and every evening–it is a little obsessive of me I know, especially when I can predict what the numbers will be!
I have my mommy sexy response in my head….but I have to get over the hump of being able to admit my issues online…
LOVE YA! You go girl. Thanks for the boost.
Love it! Thanks for the follow on my blog. I’m following you on twitter now too. LOVE your stuff and this Mom Sexy post couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m feeling so less than sexy lately as I let the stress of work and my son trying to wean before I’m emotionally ready really run me down. What would let my Mom Sexy out? Two words, letting go. God knows I WANT to be sexy. It would be so nice to FEEL sexy all the time. I feel a blog post coming on. Perhaps I should grab that there button and have at it. Thanks Mary. You rock!
–Jen
Oh you rock throwing that bastard scale away like that! And right in front of God and everyone! I so want to be Mom Sexy. I really do. I want to wake up and think, “Damn woman, you are one sexy Momma!” But lately I’ve been waking up saying, “Damn woman, you are one Momma with a big load of negativity that has literally and figuratively weighted you down since, wait for it, high school.” Yeah, that’s me. Stuck in the 80′s mindset, but not in a big hair, I want my MTV kinda way. No, for me it’s the I go to an all girl school and am too busy comparing myself to everyone else so I never feel good about me, 80′s kinda way. Whew! That’s a mouthful.
When I was 16 a “friend” of mine told me I looked like I put on a little weight over the summer. Who says that sort of thing???! So from that moment on I have let that control me. So much so that I became anorexic in high school in an attempt to “like” myself. It never worked because it was never enough. It’s still never enough, but you know what? I’m tired. I’m tired of looking in the mirror and hating what I see.
I want to learn to believe my husband when he tells me he thinks I am the hottest Momma around. And he tells me that a lot. So what’s keeping me from feeling Mom Sexy? A whole lot of body image issues that I’ve never let go of. I think it’s time to let the 80′s go. Well, I’ll keep the music, but everything else is HISTORY!!!
Mom Sexy….here I come!!!
ABSOLUTELY FREAKIN’ LOVED YOUR VLOG! And you are sooo right-it’s not how we look, but how we feel. Unfortunately I have to admit that for me it’s easier said than done. I don’t have a scale because I know I’d be stepping all over it all day long-as if I would lose a noticeable amount of weight in a couple hours. HA!
We’re all Mom Sexy in our own mom sexy ways!
I could not agree with you more about the scale! I allow that stupid piece of metal dictate my mood for the day, and I hate that. If the number is not what I think it should be,then God help everyone in my path. I am only just now starting to slowly step away from the scale,and just learning to judge my weight loss (or gain) on how I feel, how my clothes fit,etc.
Another great post, and your vlog was hysterical.
Love the vlog! You go girl!
I love Mom Sexy! Mom Sexy is not about the number on the scale or the perfect pre-baby body most of us left behind long ago (that we probably never really appreciated anyway)! It is about wearing our strech marks proudly! And, appreciating the amazing things our body can do. We can create life and feed that life after it’s born, for goodness sakes!
Now, that being said. I have a hard time letting go of my deep rooted insecurities. That is what holds my Mom Sexy back!
I could learn a lot from you…the scale (especially since GG’s birth) has not been a friend.
I noticed the zumba sign at the gym around the corner just yesterday and wondered what it is. Can you let me know a little more about it?
Way to go on the whole vlog thing and feeling uber sexy in your own skin. I’m a bit jealous, but still very impressed!
Oh, YEAH!! Great vlogging and great message!
Tell the truth. The second you stopped vlogging, you ran to get Taylor and took him to the hospital!!!
Blaaah! Love the vlog! I actually don’t own a scale. I can’t bring myself to ever buying one. Honestly a girl knows she’s got chunk when her pants don’t start fitting so what’s the point. Pop over my blog in honor of you I posted my MOM Sexy, Finding fitness post. Oh yeah I’m totally excited numbers don’t matter b/c my pant size is not reflecting the real me. LOL Cheers to Mom Sexy! C-ya later Taylor! Actually NEVER!!!
Good for you! Scales are something we all need to get rid of and forget about! I stopped weighing myself (a daily routine for all my adult life) about six months ago, and feel SO much better.
However, so I feel Mom sexy? No, sadly I do not. I’m not sure exactly why, but I think it has a lot to do with always being in casual “Mom” clothes, a lot of which are stained and faded, never having the time for anything but the briefest of showers, rarely washing my hair and not having much by way of scintillating conversation to offer my husband, talking always about what our daughter is and is not doing and life in Mommyland. Just doesn’t seem to make for a sexy mindset for me…….so I am looking forward to reading more of your Mom Sexy posts to see if I can do better!
I love when I workout consistently but I just can’t find the motivation these days. Working out makes me feel so good about myself! Shouldn’t that be motivation enough
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Way to kick the habit of checking the numbers. I think it’s more important to live well, love much and laugh more. Yeah sista! And since we’ve been comparing notes on Zumba & Jazzercise, how many times a week are you going? You look great! Go Mary Go!
I am such a slave to my scale and totally know about that number you have in your head. But you’re so right about it. Time to ditch the scale and the obsession!!! BRING MOM SEXY BACK!!
(I have a date with my dvd player and Jillian Michaels’ 30-Day Shred later)
Haha, amazing. I can tell from your comments this was a vicarious thrill for MANY!! Good for you
Oh girl! You’re a RIOT!!! I was going to tell you that your abusive boyfriend, er ex-boyfriend, has been cheating on you with every other woman on the block! He gets around! Personally, I kicked him out a while ago. He sits on my bathroom floor like a pathetic looking floor mat, but I just ignore him.
Hmmm something that keeps me from feeling sexy…just time for myself. I find that when I go to get my hair cut (like twice a year…seriously), I feel better. Shoot, just getting out of the house makes me feel this way. Lately, I’ve been feeling extra frumpy…mama needs her time out!
~melody~
I HATE the scale!!! Sometimes food in general is my downfall. I need to really stick to eating healthier foods and making healthier choices. I always feel so much better after eating a good nutritious meal. I feel like shit after I eat a greasy cheeseburger and fries (I totally love me some cheeseburger and fries though). I need to realize that I don’t need to deprive myself but I’m so much better off with “good” food choices!!
Great vlog! I just did a post, today, about how I was depressed that I didn’t fit into my jeans (amongst other things). Ha! Thanks for inspiring me.
O.M.G.
You? Are fabulous. 100% my hero!!
I hate the scale…oh, how I hate the scale! I am always jumping on/off. Many times a day. Blah–thinking that he is better off OUT of my life–maybe he’ll go and take a permanent vacay with your Taylor? Haha!
I think for me it’s just everything after having the girls. I used to be tiny…but thought I was fat {ugh!!}. I’m slowly…yes, slowly…starting to love everything about my body now. Every dimple, stretch mark, curve…I’m embracing it all. Who’s to say because I’m 2 sizes bigger than I used to be that I’m not sexy?!
Love you, Mary! You ALWAYS make me smile! xoxo
You are just too fabulous mama! I love it! What a great vlog, and a great message. I refuse to keep scales in my house for this very reason- it can really get you down even when you feel good! It’s so important to focus on how we feel and what we’re doing. Great inspiration, great post. You really rock this mom sexy thing
YES! The scale is gone! Good for you!
Ah loving the VLOG! I have an obsession with my scale too – i weigh myself everyday and i know that’s not good! I am hoping to break up with him one day
Love Mom Sexy!! You are brilliant. XOOXOX
Best break-up I have seen in a long time. Being a slave to the scale is the WORST.
Good for you!!!
I just came across your blog via Magically Ordinary, and I’m so GLAD that I did!
Whoo hoo! Way to go on breaking up with Taylor! I lost my scale along the way and have been doing much better about the number. Only check in with WiiFit Plus once a week, which is a real accomplishment on my part. I still think the number, though, is the biggest thing keeping me from Mom Sexy.
Dh is deployed, and… well, I’m something of an emotional eater. The two don’t mix terribly well. Still… I’ve marked that as being “wrong” in my mind and will allow myself to beat me up for it.
In my favor, though, I have started wearing makeup again. Light makeup, but it still makes me feel good about me, as well as my new evening routine (cleaning my face and lotioning myself – face and body – up.)
Will definitely be following you in the future. Will pass the word about Mom Sexy on too!