I’m doing something a little out of character for me today…I’m hopping on the “Pour Your Heart Out” bandwagon with my bloggy sis Shell over at Things I Can’t Say. I’m typically not a “Pour Your Heart Out” kind of girl, because I try and stick with the whole funny thing, but I feel that there are some things that just need to be said. I promise to bring back the laughs with my next post!
“Blogging Means Never Having To Say You’re Sorry”
Lately, I’ve noticed a trend in the blogosphere, and it just doesn’t sit well in my gut. Everybody’s doing it, and every time I see another blogger doing it, I sit there and think to myself:
“She really shouldn’t have to do that.”
I’m talking about bloggers apologizing for “not being able to visit other blogs as much,”, or “not being around very often these days,” or “not having enough time to return comments and emails, etc.”
Basically, I’m talking about bloggers saying they are sorry for spending time off the computer and WITH THEIR FAMILIES. For spending their time WORKING. For trying to balance household duties, and being a PARENT.
In a nutshell, I am seeing more and more bloggers saying they are sorry for LIVING THEIR LIVES.
The blogosphere is supposed to be a community that is free of judgment, and full of support, so why are so may bloggers being judged, and why are so many of them feeling the need to apologize for having a life outside of their blog?
If we are truly going to be a supportive community, then we need to adopt the consensus of, “Blogging means never having to say you’re sorry.”
I’m making a call for the apologies to STOP…and for the judgement to STOP as well.
Don’t you think that all of us would love nothing more than to have a few extra hours each day to sit down with a cup of coffee and read all of the amazing blogs out there? I’m pretty certain that most bloggers would say yes.
But somehow laundry, runny noses, shuttling the kids back and forth to school and activities, making three meals a day, keeping the house in order, for some, working a full or part time job, squeezing in a little play time with our kids so they don’t refer to us as “that lady who sits at the computer”, and trying to maintain our own blogs, gets in the way of grabbing a few moments to ourselves, and then we earn reputations as “bloggers who don’t reciprocate.”
I try my best these days, I really do. And even though I can’t return every single comment, I do return almost every single comment with an email reply. And I love my readers. My blog would be nothing without them. And I hope that they know I realize this.
I also know that some bloggers may view me as a “sell-out” for the job I took with Babble.com back in August. I will not defend my choice to take the job, but I will say that it has helped my family tremendously, and it has brought back a part of my life for me that I’d been missing since I gave up my career almost five years ago.
I needed this job. And I love it. And I’m finally getting into a good routine where I have a handle on things and can get back to a more regular posting schedule on The Mommyologist. And that feels GOOD.
I am genuinely hoping that since we are ALL busy women, that we can stop judging each other, and stop apologizing for trying to manage our lives and blogs all at the same time. We’re only human, and we only have so many hours in the day.
I sent out a tweet a few weeks ago that hit home with a couple of my followers, and it is a new motto that I think every blogger should stick by:
“Never judge another blogger for what they do or don’t do. You never know what is going on in their REAL life.”
Who’s with me?