When I saw that The Mommyologist was doing a weekly Mom Sexy thing I decided to beg let her know I was available should she want me to write something up (pick me! pick me! pick me, puleeze!)
Of course after I said I’d do this I had nothing to write about. I’d already blogged about Mami Swagger in regards to shoes, andhair. I also blogged about working out, but that was a mistake on my part and I have since corrected it by going from Ripped in 30 to faded in 50. What else was there to write about? And how could I make it all inspirational like (apparently someone’s been giving me Klout scores for inspiration so now I have something to live up to! Stop it people!)
Now, I had a shitload ton of things to do around the house (did I mention I still have things in boxes and clothes thrown about in the closet?). But I realized that I needed ME time to get my frazzled self in order. I don’t get it often and ever since the layoff, I get it even less. You’d think that after losing my job I’d have more time but noooo, this full-time-work-from-home mami shit is TOUGH!
Don’t get me wrong, I’d rather spend time with my frog princess more than with anyone else in the world (well, except maybe 15 minutes with Boris Kodjoe or Shamar Moore, I have my needs, dammit)! But I have come to realize that in order for me to get in touch with the Sexy Mami that I have always been, I need time for myself.
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I agree! Sexy does come from the inside. But my inside doesn’t feel good unless I’m taking care of myself. If I’m running regularly, then I feel sexier, and more likely to put the moves on my man.
Great guest post!
Look at you putting the moves on! I like it! Taking care of yourself will definitely make you feel sexier. Keep it up! Thanks!
“Don’t abandon yourself.” Best advice ever.
Isn’t it? I initially thought it was intense but, as with many things, she was right
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Love that advice!
And btw- I’m so glad you gave us both a shout out while we were at BBC, Mary, so that Sili and I could meet! Totally love her.
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Sili, the most inspirational people are the ones that do it without knowing and without trying. That my dear is you! You always have this positive uplifting spirit and it spreads like wild fire. You are always reminding me to smile and “it’s okay”. I love that you talk about mom sexy as a spiritual thing. I think sometimes “sexy” gets a stima and women are uncomfortable with that. Love you girl!
I am SO humbled by your words. Thank you! Love you back!
“Sexy is what got us to be mamis”. Hehe SO true! Mamis definitely need to give themselves love. We’re often too busy giving our love away and forget about ourselves.Such an inspiring post Mami Sili! Thanks Mary and Mami for sharing!
P.S. Mary, I was cursing up a storm at WordPress yesterday for spacing and other issues. Grrr. I’m glad you put it up anyway.
Thanks, Nat! And the spacing thing happens a lot when you copy and paste. I keep my blogs in EverNote and I learned that after much frustration…
Yes, so many moms lose themselves, and their “swagger”, when they have babies. It is crucial to remember that you were you before the little ones came along! And, so true, you must take time for yourself in it all. That’s what kept me sane when mine were little.
Great post, Sili!
Blessings!
Thanks for stopping by and always supporting me, Martha! Your presence and your words mean the world to me!
Blessings, to you!
Sexy definitely comes from the inside! It really is more of a state of mind and confidence than it is anything else. Time alone definitely allows for the rejuvenation needed to recoup that sexy when it starts to wane during the everyday activities of life. Add fly hair, nails and of course pearls- and you are unstoppable!
Great post!
Thanks! Yes, gurl! My hair is definitely not on point at the moment. I’m sporting my “Ode to The Lion King” do! lol
oxoxox
Awesome post. Love reading them!
Thank you!
Love it! And you had me laughing out loud with “Spending time with the one person that remembers what you were like before the pancake boobs, incontinence and hemorrhoids.” So true, mami, so true.
I’m with you on the waxes too – I’ve been getting brazilians for almost a decade now!
LOL! Thanks so much for stopping by!
LOVE this post, it’s so true and a necessary reminder! I turned into ‘Mami’ after Aidan was born, all Mami all the time and it’s only been as of the past 3 months or so that I remembered I’m still a woman, completely separate from Aidan and yet completely connected to him. It’s sad I just got the connection and he’s now 4yrs old, but you can’t go back so I’m moving forward walking in my new MomSexy skin and loving every second of it.
Sili’s Mami had it right and I thank you lady for passing it on and paying it forward. Then again, I expect nothing less from my fabulous friend <3
Thanks mama! I appreciate your words. <3
Glad you are enjoying your mom sexy skin. That's what it's there for
Sexy completely comes from the inside. It’s so the way you feel, and how you are.
Amen!
I really needed to hear this word! Preach on Sistah Sili!!! These days I feel so out of place in the mall, unless I’m shopping for the baby. I just look a hot mess. But I have to get it together! Your blog helped me realize that I’ve been abandoning myself. Sad but true. But I am promising to change!!
Alright now! I expect an update (with a pic!
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Ah! I love this! It’s true…I think we become mom and very often forget we are woman first. It’s definitely hard to carve out “me” time (I live in a house with 4 little dudes and 1 big dude…they don’t see the need for “girl time”!), but on the rare occassion that I do, it is SO worth it! I think helping women see that moms are the ultimate in sexy is very important. Good job ladies!!
Thanks, Crystal! You are so right. Hmmm, maybe you can get some me time while the boys are watching football…
So very true–Great post!
Thanks, Bree!
Love this! It’s so true, it does start from the inside. It’s hard to find me time, but so very important.
Amen! Got some me time on Sunday and it was HEAVENLY! Just me, Pinterest and my crafts…lol
Got the biggest kick out of your reference to our lips and hips– we do each have to find our own “sexy”. My sexy involves a 21st century women’s movement. Ironically, the name of my company is Lips & Hips: a ROUNDtable discussion. I’d love to chat about some potential synergy.
In the meantime, just know that your blog(s) were a highlight to my day!
Curvacious-ly,
Yodit – Detroit
How interesting! Well, there’s no such thing as coincidence. Glad we could brighten your day. I’ll be sure to check out your movement.
Sexy IS the essence of women! Love that and glad you’re finding time for yourself!!
I have been sucking at it lately but, I remembered this post and told myself that I would take time to primp. Especially during the holidays.
I love the idea of “me” time. In my husband’s world. that doesnt extist. He thinks that when you’re married there’s no alone time. Needless to say, Im hardly alone. Even, if I am he constantly call me. I LOVE TO SHOP, doenst have to be anything in particular just the feel the the store and register’s ringing gives me a nice buzz. Sexy, what’s that? My hair is always done, I dressed very conservately and classy. No matter what it is I do, I never feel sexy.