Please welcome my Mom Sexy Fridays guest poster for today, Kelly from “The Six of Us.”, as she shares with us why it is ok to want to look good and feel like a sexy woman!
Kelly is a 38 year old military spouse, mother of 4 and marketing assistant. She loves to cook and bake, and obviously, share lots of intimate details about her life on her blog! You can also follow Kelly on Facebook and Twitter.
I recently did something that I have desperately wanted to do for years. It’s totally vain and unnecessary but I wanted it. Needed it, you might say. My perspective about myself has changed by leaps and bounds over my 37 years; I realize that life is short and all that waning philosophical jazz, I get that it’s about more than how you look.
But I am a woman. And how I look is important to me.
Call me silly. It doesn’t change the fact that I care. Or that I like make-up and cute dresses. And looking thin. Or having smooth skin and shaved legs.
Call me old-school, anti-feminist. I still want to look pretty and girly. Just because you don’t wax your brows (or other parts) doesn’t make me not want to. I’m so tired of defending myself in this regard. Please don’t be offended, ladies, but I actually *like* not being hairy! I also like feeling good in my clothes and not having to “suck it in”.
Who’s with me? Anyone?
So, what I did recently is much greater than waxing or coloring my eyelids.Or sucking it in.I had a tummy tuck. Or an abdominoplasty. Or if you like, a pendiculotomy. Anyway you say it, I had three pounds of skin removed from my belly. THREE awful, stretch-marked, bread-doughish POUNDS of skin.
Three babies and yo-yo weight loss will do that to a girl.I was embarrassed. AM embarrassed that it was there. I chose to take advantage of an opportunity I was given. My doc said that if I was able to work out and close the gap between my abdominal muscles in 6 months, then he would do it for me.
I worked my mother lovin’ a$$ off, girls! P90X and yoga and saying “no thanks” to yummy things a lot.
And I did it. I met his goal for me and on March 8th, 2011 he kept his promise to me.
I am so happy that I did, too!! Nearly two years after my surgery I am as happy as I was when I first had it done. I do not have the perfect body, but I am happy. I think it’s ok for us gals to do what we want to do to make ourselves a bit more comfortable in our own skin!
Thank you so much, Kelly, for reminding women that they don’t have to feel guilty for wanting to look good! Mom Sexy is a state of mind, but doing things that make us feel better about ourselves on the outside often helps our inner confidence as well. I know that I feel much sexier when I’m working out regularly and my jeans fit! I applaud you for sharing your story!
If you’d like to be a part of my Mom Sexy Fridays series and help inspire other women to take their sexy back after having kids, please email me at themommyologist(at)gmail(dot)com for details. I’d love to hear your story! – Mary