Mom Sexy Fridays: It’s Ok To Want To Look Good!

Please welcome my Mom Sexy Fridays guest poster for today, Kelly from “The Six of Us.”, as she shares with us why it is ok to want to look good and feel like a sexy woman!

Kelly is a 38 year old military spouse, mother of 4 and marketing assistant. She loves to cook and bake, and obviously, share lots of intimate details about her life on her blog! You can also follow Kelly on Facebook and Twitter.



I recently did something that I have desperately wanted to do for years. It’s totally vain and unnecessary but I wanted it. Needed it, you might say. My perspective about myself has changed by leaps and bounds over my 37 years; I realize that life is short and all that waning philosophical jazz, I get that it’s about more than how you look.

But I am a woman. And how I look is important to me.

Call me silly. It doesn’t change the fact that I care. Or that I like make-up and cute dresses. And looking thin. Or having smooth skin and shaved legs.

Call me old-school, anti-feminist. I still want to look pretty and girly. Just because you don’t wax your brows (or other parts) doesn’t make me not want to. I’m so tired of defending myself in this regard. Please don’t be offended, ladies, but I actually *like* not being hairy! I also like feeling good in my clothes and not having to “suck it in”.

Who’s with me? Anyone?

So, what I did recently is much greater than waxing or coloring my eyelids.Or sucking it in.I had a tummy tuck. Or an abdominoplasty. Or if you like, a pendiculotomy. Anyway you say it, I had three pounds of skin removed from my belly. THREE awful, stretch-marked, bread-doughish POUNDS of skin.

Three babies and yo-yo weight loss will do that to a girl.I was embarrassed. AM embarrassed that it was there. I chose to take advantage of an opportunity I was given. My doc said that if I was able to work out and close the gap between my abdominal muscles in 6 months, then he would do it for me.

I worked my mother lovin’ a$$ off, girls! P90X and yoga and saying “no thanks” to yummy things a lot.

And I did it. I met his goal for me and on March 8th, 2011 he kept his promise to me.

I am so happy that I did, too!! Nearly two years after my surgery I am as happy as I was when I first had it done. I do not have the perfect body, but I am happy. I think it’s ok for us gals to do what we want to do to make ourselves a bit more comfortable in our own skin!


Thank you so much, Kelly, for reminding women that they don’t have to feel guilty for wanting to look good! Mom Sexy is a state of mind, but doing things that make us feel better about ourselves on the outside often helps our inner confidence as well. I know that I feel much sexier when I’m working out regularly and my jeans fit! I applaud you for sharing your story!

If you’d like to be a part of my Mom Sexy Fridays series and help inspire other women to take their sexy back after having kids, please email me at themommyologist(at)gmail(dot)com for details. I’d love to hear your story! – Mary


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    Tina says:

    Way to go! I just want to applaud you! I know what you mean about always defending yourself. I like looking nice and be fashionable and I am so tired of defending that because it means I am vain or something. And I am jealous. I have one child and I still can’t get rid of that sagging extra belly skin. All the weight is gone, but it’s like a deflated balloon.
    Great post!

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    Good for you! I’m still sticking to shapewear for now, but if I had the money I’d also have a tummy tuck.

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    Shell says:

    Oh, this so tempts me. It seems no matter how much I work out, my belly isn’t going anywhere.

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    Crystal says:

    Good for you! I’m actually super jealous. I’m baking #5, and I noticed that after #4 that things didn’t “bounce back” as I had falsley believed they always would. Yes, I’m very sad about it! I’m not opposed to fixing things at all! If my hubby would fund it, I would TOTALLY do it. I already told him he owes me new boobs once I’m doing nursing surprise baby #5. Those things DEFINITELY don’t bounce back. A side note- my hubster is in the military too.

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      kelly caffee says:

      I obviously say do what you want to do!!! Congrats on #5 – how exciting!! Do you have boys, girls or both? I have two of each!!! Which branch of the military? Mine is Army and I was actually able to have my surgery at an Army hospital!!! :)

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    That’s awesome, Kelly!! I love stories like this of women doing stuff for themselves just because they want to and it makes them feel better. One of my friends recently had a tummy tuck and breast lift after having their kids, and she, too, looks amazing! If something about you is bothering you and you can fix it without harm, then why not? I keep saying when we’re done having kids I’m getting my boobs done. Or should I say my lack of boobs… enhanced. 😉 We’ll see if I’m actually brave enough to go through with it when we finally reach that point, though, ha!

    Great story – thank you for sharing!

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    kelly caffee says:

    Thank you, ladies, for your encouraging words!!! You will never know how much they mean to mean – even after all this time I still feel embarrassed (a little) about taking such a drastic measure!! Much love to you all!!

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    Morgan says:

    I’m all about being Mom Sexy too. My blog is and I post a lot about being Mommalicious! :-) Good for you, girl…no reason to let ourselves go! Why waste a good thing?

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    Glamamom says:

    I’m with you girl, obviously. There’s no shame in my game.

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