Mom Sexy Fridays: Get Your Mom Sexy On!

Please welcome my Mom Sexy Fridays guest poster for this week…my good bloggy friend Kimberly Riggins! Kimberly and I connected a while back because we share a similar mission…to encourage and inspire women to love and accept themselves for who they are.

 

 

Kimberly Riggins is a body image expert, negative self-talk warrior and an transformational catalyst who inspires women to let go of their body hang-ups, kick their inner critical bitch to the curb and release their inner vixen. She is the founder and creator of The Art of Eating Chocolate Naked, a movement that challenges women all across the world to accept and love themselves just as they are. She is also the author of the recently published book, Love Your Naked Ass. To learn more about Kimberly and her programs, go to http://kimberlyriggins.com.

Also make sure to  follow Kimberly on Facebook and Twitter (she posts super encouraging stuff there too)!

 

Get Your Mom Sexy On!

 

What is Mom Sexy?

For me, being “Mom Sexy” means…

• To be comfortable in my own skin.
• To honor, respect and take care of my body.
• To celebrate my gifts and all that I have to offer the world.
• To do my very best and to not obsess about being perfect.
• To be vulnerable and push myself to my limits.
• Being kind and loving toward my fellow female friends (no comparing).

I know this may surprise many of you. For a lot of women I talk to and work with, being sexy is a “look” but for me it is truly a “feeling.” And anyone can achieve it.

Look, I get it! Being pregnant for most women is NOT Mom Sexy.

You walk around for 9 months carrying what feels like a 6-9 pound watermelon and then after you deliver this little bundle of joy, you walk around for a day or two with an ice-packed diaper on. And if that wasn’t bad enough, let’s not forget about those beautiful mesh panties.

Totally not Mom Sexy!

To top it off, if you are breastfeeding, although it’s a great way to bond with your child, your breasts no longer belong to you. And if you were like me, my tits were screaming in pain for the first few weeks wondering what the hell they did wrong to deserve this kind of masochistic pain. Thank God that subsided because I breastfed for 11 months.

And while I am on a roll, let’s just put it out there.

Our bodies CHANGE after giving birth. And trying to get our body back to some semblance of normalcy is not as easy as some women make it seem.

Although it wasn’t the most Mom Sexy time of my life, I wouldn’t have traded it for the world because whatever leftover body image hang-ups I had, they were absolutely gone after giving birth. (If you want to read my very personal story, you can find it here).

What???

I am serious! I honestly felt like superwoman. I was in complete awe that my body could be so magnificent that it could create and house another human being.

From that point on, I vowed that I would give my body the respect and love that it deserved. No questions asked!

And guess what happened?

By simply changing this mindset, I actually felt Mom Sexy!!!

But that’s not the only thing I did.

Here are 5 more ways I keep my Mom Sexy quotient high. (As it turns out, these are same suggestions that I give to my personal clients’ to help them release their body image hang-ups).

Get Naked.

Yes, I said get naked. I believe that in order to be truly comfortable in your own skin, you need to get comfortable being in your birthday suit. If you can’t embrace yourself naked, it is really hard to love your body and to truly feel Mom Sexy!

So take off your clothes ladies.

Walk around the house nude. Get cozy with the air hitting your skin. Watch your favorite sitcom naked. Fold laundry naked, eat dinner naked. Hell, cook dinner naked. That would be a nice treat for your husband, don’t you think?

Of course, you have to do this when the kiddies are in bed or when they are visiting Grandma’s house, otherwise, you’ll end up getting 50 questions that you’re not ready to answer.

Move Your Booty.

Yes, I am talking about shakin’ your ass. Get your booty into motion.

Turn on some music and dance, go for a run, grab a jump rope, take a yoga or Pilates class. Jump in a Zumba class, try Budokon, or maybe take some pole dancing lessons.

The point here is to do something active and to get your sweat on!

Daily Om.

I am not suggesting you have to do yoga every morning, unless it’s meditative yoga. What I am talking about here is sitting quietly for 5-10 minutes each morning, taking some deep belly breaths and setting an intention for your day.

You really do have power to decide how you show up in the world each and every day.

Give Yourself Some Verbal Love.

Every morning upon waking up, I go to the mirror and tell myself what’s up.

Usually it goes something like, “Hey there Kimberly, I love you. You are special, unique and beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.” Okay, that might sound cheesy to you but it works.

So create your own version of appreciating yourself and give yourself some verbal love. Because here’s the reality, if you can’t say those things to yourself, it will be irrelevant if someone else says them to you because you will have a hard time believing them.

Go on a ME Date.

This is my all-time favorite way to feel Mom Sexy.

Take yourself out on a date. Shower yourself with love and fun. Go to that 5 star restaurant for lunch, treat yourself to that iced latte at the bookstore as you page through your favorite magazine, get a massage, manicure/pedicure, take dance lessons, go to that movie you have been dying to see…the idea is to have fun and do something you love by yourself.

If you can learn to fall in love with your own company, when you are with someone else, you are that much more FUN!

So what do you do to fill your Mom Sexy quotient? I would love to hear your suggestions and ideas. Leave a comment below so we can all learn fun new ways to feel Mom Sexy.

 

*As an added bonus, Kimberly is going to give away a signed copy of her book to help put one of you on the path to “loving your naked ass!” I will randomly choose a winner from the comments on this post, and will notify the winner next Friday, January 27th!

 

I’d love for you to be a part of my Mom Sexy Fridays guest post series going forward this year. If you’d like to participate and share whatever it is that makes you feel Mom Sexy, or how you got your Mom Sexy back, please email me at themommyologist(at)gmail(dot)com. I’d love to hear your story and share it with other women who want to get their sexy back!