On more than one occasion, you guys have heard me talk about activating my “I Don’t Give a Fu&%” switch, and what’s it’s done for my quality of life in general, and my personal sanity. And I gotta tell ya – I seriously can’t rave enough about this thing, and I firmly believe that everyone needs to turn their switch on for the sake of maintaining any sort of peace in life.
Of course, I have a pretty outspoken and ballsy personality, so going about my life and doing things without worrying about pleasing other people is pretty easy for me. But it wasn’t always that way. I spent the better part of my life up until a couple years ago being totally focused on what other people wanted, and trying to tell them what they wanted to hear just to make them happy, regardless of whether or not I was content with whatever decision I was making.
And honestly, living like that totally sucked. Without being all motivational and philosophical and all that bullshit, I can tell you that if you are living your life according to other people — then you really aren’t “living” at all.
Believe it or not, activating your “I Don’t Give a Fu&%” switch is a hell of a lot easier than you think. All you need to do is use that sentence as your personal mantra, and repeat it over and over again in your head (or out loud if you’re really feeling it) the next time someone does something to put you down, piss you off, or make you feel any less freakin’ amazing than you KNOW you are.
In case you don’t quite catch my drift…here are a few examples:
To the person who cut me off on the highway in the pouring rain last night and almost made me veer off the road –
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
To the lovely people who have labeled me as a “sell-out” for choosing to do what is right for ME by going back to work full-time -
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
To the people in my life who get all bent out of shape because I don’t stay in touch with them (even though they don’t make an effort either) –
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
To the people who are so unhappy in their own lives that they can’t resist trying to bring down people around them -
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
To the people who are too chicken shit to admit when they’re wrong, so they just continue being self-righteous assholes because they have nothing better to do with their time -
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
And to the people who have made me doubt my own success, attractiveness, and self-worth over the past almost 35 years? Guess what? Those feelings did not last, because –
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%”
Oh, and one more — To the bitch who called me out on my own Facebook fan page and told me I swear too much and there are more polite words I can use?
FU&% You — cuz I Don’t Give a FU&%!
Whew. I feel better now. Give it a try — I PROMISE you, it works.
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Mary – you are so right! I just recently found your blog and I completely adore it! You are hilarious – you tell it like it is which is so refreshing! Keep it up!
Thank you! So happy you agree…
Life’s too short to allow people into it who bring you down!
Dude, I found this switch last year and that’s why I’m getting a divorce! One day I just had this epiphany of WHY THE FUCK AM I DOING THIS TO MYSELF? And I’ve never looked back!
Great post.
That is so great that you found your switch…doesn’t it make things so much easier??
Mar- Have I told you lately how much I love you???
Always- just what I need to hear, just when I need it! xoxo
Love you too!! xoxo
love it. so true. there are always the ones who know how to push that button!
Yes, there are! That’s why I’m so glad I’ve learned not to let them bother me. Just not worth my energy!
I need to activate this switch for all the grief I get for having “only” one child by choice. Thank you, Mary!
OMG. I get the exact same thing about having an only child!! I’m on the one and done plan, and no one is going to convince me otherwise!!
This: “To the people in my life who get all bent out of shape because I don’t stay in touch with them (even though they don’t make an effort either) –
“I Don’t Give a Fu&%””
I feel this SO much.
I knew you’d understand! People don’t seem to realize staying in touch is a two way street.
I’m right there with you buddy, I do not give a fuck about quite a few things/people/opinions!
Also, it was nice to see you pop up in my reader.
Thank you!! Haven’t been blogging as much since I went back to work full time…but doing my best!
Hi Mary,
Long time reader, first time commenter.
I find the older I get the more I push this button. Wish I’d found it ages ago.
You and me both! My life would be much different if I’d discovered that switch sooner.
Just bookmarked you cuz I don’t have an RSS feed (or I do but I’m too clueless to figure out how to activate it). I took up this philosophy a few years ago after busting my ass trying to make everyone happy ALL THE TIME, regardless of how they treated me. I was miserable and exhausted but that is the way I was raised. Life is so much easier when you can let all the little shit go. Hope many women read this and take this advice. Thanks.
So glad you agree and have found your switch! I’m never turning mine off!
Love it! I’m a habitual switch flipper. It’s what I do. I totally agree with you, people are ridiculous and you can never please them anyway, so there is no value in trying. Do you. Oh, and really? going back to work gets you heat? (chanelling the BK girl within) come on son, that’s just ridiculous.
Just found your blog and I can’t wait to read it on a regular basis. In the meantime, I’ll be catching up on past posts the rest of the day and night. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I will be turning 40 this year and I can’t tell you how much I needed permission to use the switch.